Her experiences and her treatment taught her that a partner who could respect and support her sobriety would also respect and support her as a romantic partner.
It is not an easy lesson for anyone to learn, let alone someone in recovery, but the way to a healthy relationship is to take it “very, very slow,” in the words of a sexoligist and licensed addiction counselor.
Furthermore, some people enjoy the feeling of dating someone with their own substance abuse problem, because it allows the person a sense of power (or even relief) at not being the “patient” in the relationship.
For once, the attention – whether positive or negative – is on the other person.
Newly sober, she didn’t date anyone for eight months, giving herself time to recognize the red flags that her earlier self was not ready to see.A substance abuse problem changes the way a person looks at the world, and treatment does much the same thing.A lot can change due to drug and alcohol addiction, and successful rehabilitation entails rebuilding a person’s life.It can mean missing out on parties, it can mean being forced to cope with life’s struggles and challenges stone cold sober, and it can also mean being alone.quotes a 26-year old former heroin addict as saying that “getting sober is pretty lonely.” The apparent cure for the loneliness is often sought in likeminded people.